As I sat in the 9:30 p.m. movie of Sherlock Holmes, the conversation I had with one of my clients kept rolling through my mind. The high school couple next to us hid under a blanket and I had to keep my psychic abilities focused on the movie. They were a great reminder of the life span we all experience and feel even when we are old and it is the sparkle left in our eyes. As my 85 year old Virginia client shared her regret and pain over the way she had neglected her mother when her father died; she described how her mother had suffered from loneliness.
I saw her mother and father standing there in my office as I spoke with her over the phone. Her feeble voice asked me if her mother would forgive her for being so insensitive to her loss. Her mother replied that she of course forgave her and she was more than appreciative of the care she gave her at the time of her death. My client lost her husband after 63 years of marriage and the void is as big as the Grand Canyon. She has realized something many do not until they are elderly. The awareness of what we have done to others and how we have treated the people who have loved us the most is often the work left undone and never resolved. Her comfort in being able to communicate to her mother and receiving that pardon is immeasurable.
My experience in such a healing is humbling to say the least. We visited with her father who reported on all of the activities of the grandchildren. Her husband stepped forward and professed a never-ending love and assured her he is there waiting for her. This is common in the spirit realm in that loved ones are there to receive us when we pass and make our journey to the light. The appointment was followed by another client who had lost his wife after 45 years of marriage. With an illustrious career in medicine he thought he had all angles in life beat except for one. The death of his wife had nearly put him over the top and through numerous conversations that I have facilitated he is finally coming to a place of peace and understanding. This spiritual man has what any of us have and that is the passion for life and the misconception of the hereafter. His wife also assured him she is by his side, chasing after the grandchildren and please get the dryer fixed! Too often we pass by our elderly and forget the pain and suffering they are experiencing due to the fast pace of our own lives. They are a wealth of information, history, belief systems and incredible stories. If we take time to talk with them, honor them and hear their pain we might just help ease some of the deeper desires to have completion and resolution to chapters in their lives.